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Help for Couples Who Argue About Sleep Temperature

Tara Youngblood Sep 09, 2022

Couples and sleep temperature

Bed temperature, it seems, is nearly as bad as snoring when it comes to couples attempting to remain comfy in the same bed night after night. Typically, one person is hot, restlessly removing the covers while disrupting their partner's sleep.

You're not alone if you have trouble sleeping at night and selecting the perfect sleep temperature. A study by The Better Sleep Council found that approximately 85% of people report having problems falling asleep when it's time for bed, women more so than men. [1]

Common Sleep Factors

While there are a variety of sleep factors that can cause this problem, including stress, problems in the workplace, money worries, etc. What if you’re sharing the bed with a significant other? Some claim they have trouble sleeping with another individual because they are disrupted by the other’s restlessness and ideal temperature for sleep.

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Couple Sleep Statistics

  • 75% Reported That Sharing a Bed With Their Partner Negatively Affects Their Sleep Quality

  • 40% Complain About the Partner Taking All the Covers

  • 80% Of Couples Managed to Resolve Their Sleep-Related Arguments

  • 34% Said That One Partner Wanted a Fan Running While Sleeping

  • 51% Of Couples Have Changed the Thermostat While Their Partner Was Sleeping

  • 14% Of Couples Disagree on Room Temperature Because of Utility Costs

What is the Ideal Sleep Temperature

What is the ideal room temperature for sleeping? Some say that the room temperature for the best sleep is between 60 and 68 degrees. But, let’s say you prefer to sleep at warmer temperatures while your partner prefers to sleep cooler at night. Most sleep experts agree that room temperature can affect sleep quality.

Some may not know that there are products on the market that can help create an amicable sleeping environment while also saving you money in the long run.

How to Find Comfortable Sleep Temperature?

The bottom line is that there is problem-solving for couples with fundamental differences in temperature preference. If it’s too hot to sleep with your partner, we can help!

Sleep systems include Dock Pro, OOLER and Cube

Disagree About Sleep Temperature?

Our sleep systems offers dual-side temperature zones, so you and your partner can comfortably choose your preferred sleep temperature, without affecting the other person ranging from 55-115ºF.

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Common Sleep Factors

While there are a variety of sleep factors can cause this problem, including money worries, stress, problems in the workplace, etc. What if you’re sharing the bed with a significant other? Some claim that they have trouble sleeping with another individual because they are disrupted by the other’s restlessness and ideal temperature for sleep.

If you’re having the same issue with your significant other, you can implement various creative strategies to make your slumber together more peaceful.

Recently, more couples are claiming to be happier with what can be called “sleep divorce”.

In other words, sleep in separate beds or rooms from your partner. About 30-40% of couples have tried sleeping in separate beds to make their sleep more restful. [2] While the nickname for this phenomenon sounds more ominous than it is for some couples, you could also miss out on some awesome health benefits when you're sleeping separately.

63% of couples sleep most of the night separated

Benefits of Couples Sleeping Together

Scientists have found that sleeping with your partner could be why people involved in close relationships tend to be healthier and live longer compared to those who are single or are not in a long-term relationship.

Studies have shown that sleeping with your partner and creating that sense of closeness and security improves your health in various ways.

Sense of Security

Not only does it help reduce your cortisol levels, otherwise known as your stress hormone, but it can also boost oxytocin levels, which helps ease anxiety and reduce cytokines, which can cause inflammation.

The psychological benefits we get having closeness at night trump the objective costs of sleeping with a partner.

Dr. Troxel

Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Psychology at the University of Pittsburgh

Makes You Happier

Sleeping in the same bed as your partner makes you feel happier. Your body releases dopamine (the chemical responsible for feeling pleasure) and serotonin. Serotonin improves your mood and makes you laugh.

Study: Couples who were sleeping together allowed them to spend longer in REM sleep, with fewer REM cycle interruptions.

So if you’re having issues falling asleep with your partner by your side, how do you make sleeping together easier? In general, try improving your personal sleep habits before bed- don’t eat huge meals close to bedtime, and shut down electronics about an hour before you fall asleep.

If these are rules that you already follow to help yourself fall asleep but you are still having issues, your main problem might lie somewhere else (pun intended).

If you both agree on sleep temperature, the cooling bed systems also have the potential to save money. Using the same amount of energy as one light bulb, you won’t have to worry about outrageous heating or cooling bills while you try to find your perfect temperature!

We feel that it’s important to invest in your rest, and with our products, we are dedicated to helping you get your best sleep.

There’s only one thing that should keep couples up at night, and it isn’t arguing over bed temperature.


[1] Sleeping Together May Be a Nightmare. (2017, April 9). Better Sleep Council | Start Every Day with a Good Night’s Sleep. View Resource

[2] More couples opting to sleep in separate beds, study suggests. (2013, August 6). CBC. View Resource