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Best Ways to Support Your Partner During Menopause

Ana Marie Schick Feb 07, 2023

Menopause tips for husbands

Menopause is an extremely significant change in a woman’s life. Not only is it a change for a woman, but that change can be challenging for a caring partner as well. And as that partner, you have a major role to play in helping her successfully navigate through the major life change.

At first, it's understandably overwhelming. Your partner’s menopause experience might be a years-long journey full of surprises and frustrations. However, it’s difficult to predict, as no two women going through menopause are the same.

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For the small minority, it’s easy sailing with little change in their bodies or life. But for most, the change can feel profound, and receiving support from a partner is ideal.

With a bit of knowledge and a whole lot of care, you’ll be able to help her through with triumph. Chances are excellent that at the end of it all, you’ll be loved (even more) for your compassion, thoughtfulness, and strength.

In this article, we'll offer partners guidance on how to support a loved one during menopause. It highlights the various physical and emotional changes associated with menopause and provides practical and emotional support tips.

Statistic

In a study, 74% of women surveyed reported that menopause had a negative effect on their relationships with their partners, with the 67% of respondents claiming it caused arguments and fights.

Your Partner and Menopause

Before we discuss tips on how to support your wife or partner, let’s discuss menopause. The average age of menopause is about 51 years old. However, menopause can occur anytime between the ’30s and ’50s (sometimes older). It's considered complete when women haven't had a menstrual period for 12 consecutive months. [1]

Perimenopause is the period before menopause in which the supply of mature eggs in the ovaries begins to decrease. At about the same time, the hormones progesterone and testosterone levels drop, and ovulation becomes irregular. Specifically, the drop in estrogen levels causes most menopausal symptoms. [2]

During menopause, the body experiences physical and hormonal shifts that can lead to not feeling like oneself. It is not uncommon for someone going through menopause develop difficulties falling or staying asleep, feel moody, experience “brain fog” or even notice they are suffering really dry skin. The range of symptoms that accompany menopause is long, and these are just a few of the many things that can happen during menopause.

Support your partner during menopause

How to Be a Supportive Partner

Now you’ve got a brief understanding of menopause; it’s time to learn how to support your partner. How can you help your loved one through one of the most difficult times in her life? There’s a lot you can do to make things easier.

Educate Yourself About the Symptoms

Take time to learn about the symptoms and changes that occur during menopause. In a recent study of 96 husbands, most said they knew some knowledge about menopause—but mostly gathered information from their wives.

Did You Know?

More than 25% of them admitted knowing little or nothing about menopause.

Empathy and Sensitivity Goes a Long Way

Showing empathy or sensitivity is crucial. Generations of “cultural misogyny” should be undone. We need to change the thinking that mood swings and other symptoms that go along with menopause are something that could be easily controlled.

Your partner is going through a very personal, individual journey that is caused by ever-changing hormones. Your relationship might be tested during this time. Patience, understanding and the knowledge that your partner is in uncharted waters might assist in the way you react to their changes.

Since the journey is so personal, we recommend your partner talk to their primary care or OBGYN about their symptoms. There are many resources for menopause and the symptoms that go hand and hand with this time of life. We do know, however, that eating right and exercise can help improve symptoms of menopause.

Several studies have shown that regular exercise significantly reduced menopausal symptoms and improved well-being. [3]

Tip: Help your partner prioritize their physical and emotional well-being. Encourage activities such as exercise, meditation, or therapy.

Communication

In many cultures, discussing menopause is considered taboo. Men, especially through certain sociocultural norms, are taught to pretty much stay away from the topic. It could also be that your partner doesn’t want to discuss specifics. (And that’s OK too).

Statistic

Only 20% of women seek help discussing their problems in menopause.

Just as each woman goes through menopause differently, the kind or amount of support they need is also individual.

As said earlier, no two journeys are the same. If your partner wants to talk about their changes, we recommend that you just set aside time to listen, listen, listen. Listen without judgment. Encourage your partner to share their thoughts and feelings about menopause.

Tip: It can be a touchy subject, so allowing your partner to know you’re there and supportive can make a huge difference.

Share Your Feelings

It’s important to learn how to support your wife during menopause, but as a supportive husband and partner, it's also important not to tolerate any mistreatment. If your partner is acting unreasonably, it's okay to express your feelings and how their actions impact you.

Be clear and specific in your communication. Being understanding and empathetic is paramount, but it's not necessary to tolerate abuse without speaking up.

Laughter and menopause

Get the Support You May Need

The husband's primary focus should be on his partner. However, it's essential to recognize that this situation can be difficult for you too. You may find yourself on the receiving end of some of the symptoms, in uncomfortable circumstances, and feeling powerless. It's important not to overlook your struggles. It would help if you found ways to take care of yourself so you can also focus on supporting your partner.

Developing Practical Solutions

Communication, respect, and sensitivity are paramount when it comes to managing menopause. The symptoms are so varied that the best solutions are individual.

Menopause Tips for Husbands

  1. Help with household chores and/or child care duties so she can be alone and recharge.
  2. Creating an environment conducive to sleep – e.g. cooling systems or weighted blankets. Both can help with symptoms, including hot flashes and night sweats.
  3. Support exercise to eliminate concerns about changes in some women’s bodies. Finding something you enjoy doing together makes this tip easier!
  4. Yoga/stretching is extremely beneficial for easing musculoskeletal pain. [4-5]
  5. Meditation and mindfulness can be very helpful for managing stress. [6] We offer lots of great options on our website for mindfulness, breathing and meditation.

Many women choose to receive hormone therapy. Generally, health professionals recommend the above lifestyle adjustments as a first line of treatment. [7-8]

Recognizing the Symptoms of Menopause

All women experience menopause differently, with no two journeys being the same. Furthermore, symptoms could be affected by other aspects of life, such as stress level or illness.

Below are some of the more common symptoms that may occur:

Hot Flashes & Night Sweats

Also known as VMS, decreases in estrogen confuse a part of the brain called the hypothalamus, often referred to as the ‘body’s thermostat.’ About 75% of women in the US experience hot flashes as they approach menopause and a year or two afterward. [9]

Vaginal Atrophy

Thinning and dryness of the vaginal walls can cause sex to be painful, and there's an increased tendency for urinary tract infections and vaginitis. [10]

Musculoskeletal Pain

Research indicates that 71% of women experience joint and muscle pain throughout the body. [11]

Decreased Libido

Women, like men, have the hormone testosterone, although in lower amounts - which may be responsible for decreased sex drive. [12]

Cardiac Changes

These include a faster heart rate and palpitations leading to dizziness, numbness, and tingling. [13]

Weight Gain

This occurs particularly around the waistline. [14]

Sleep Problems

Hot flashes and numerous hormonal changes interfere with the ability to fall asleep and stay asleep. [15-17]

Mood Swings

People going through menopause may or may not experience changes in their mood. If they do, it’s important to be aware of them and learn how to manage them together as a couple.

And what about mental health?

Well, maybe we need to think about that a bit. According to Johns Hopkins, several studies indicate that women experiencing menopause have no more anxiety or depression than women of similar ages who are menstruating.

Therefore, the stress of aging and changing women’s roles may be a contributing factor. [18]

Final Thoughts

Now that you’ve gotten all of this information from clinical research and healthcare professionals, keep the following helpful tips in mind.

  1. Be empathetic and sensitive to the many challenges that your partner is facing.
  2. Know that every woman’s experience is different.
  3. Take active steps to help her feel like the well-loved woman that she is.
  4. Respect her need to be alone...to exercise, meditate, or just chill.
  5. Listen as she expresses her frustrations.
  6. Make any changes she needs to get a good night’s sleep.
  7. Support her decision to explore hormone therapy with a gynecologist (or another healthcare professional) that she can trust.

As difficult as menopause is, remember that things really do get better. By working together with a loving and caring spirit, you are sure to come out stronger as a couple. Keep in mind if your partner is struggling with severe symptoms, encourage them to see a doctor for medical treatment options.

Citations / Resources

[1] Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.) Introduction to Menopause. View Resource

[2] Ibid.

[3] D?browska, J., D?browska-Galas, M., Rutkowska, M., & Michalski, B. A. (2016). Twelve-week exercise training and the quality of life in menopausal women - clinical trial. Przeglad menopauzalny = Menopause review, 15(1), 20–25. View Study

[4] InformedHealth.org [Internet]. Cologne, Germany: Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care (IQWiG); 2006-. Menopause: Overview. [Updated 2020 Jul 2]. View Study

[5] Lu, C., Liu, P., Zhou, Y., Meng, F., Qiao, T., Yang, X., Li, X., Xue, Q., Xu, H., Liu, Y., Han, Y., Zhang, Y.(2020). Musculoskeletal pain during the menopausal transition: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Hindawi Neural Plasticity. Article ID 8842110, 10 pages. View Study

[6] InformedHealth.org [Internet]. Cologne, Germany: Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care (IQWiG); 2006-. Menopause: Overview. [Updated 2020 Jul 2]. View Resource

[7] Burch, K. (2022, July 25). Menopause symptoms and diagnoses: Hot flashes. Very Well Health. View Resource

[8] Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.) Introduction to Menopause. View Resource

[9] Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center Survivorship Program. [Flashes, H.] Menopausal Symptoms. (n.d). View Resource

[10] Angelo, J. (2017, June 16). Menopause Help for Husbands: 6 Tips on How to Help Your Midlife Wife. Gennev. View Resource

[11] Lu, C., Liu, P., Zhou, Y., Meng, F., Qiao, T., Yang, X., Li, X., Xue, Q., Xu, H., Liu, Y., Han, Y., Zhang, Y.(2020). Musculoskeletal pain during the menopausal transition: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Hindawi Neural Plasticity. Article ID 8842110, 10 pages. View Study

[12] Scott, J.A. (2012, August 27) A man’s guide to menopause. Everyday Health. View Resource

[13] Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.) Introduction to Menopause. View Resource

[14] Angelo, J. (2017, June 16). Menopause Help for Husbands: 6 Tips on How to Help Your Midlife Wife. Gennev. View Resource

[15] Scott, J.A. (2012, August 27) A man’s guide to menopause. Everyday Health. View Resource

[16] Ibid.

[17] Angelo, J. (2017, June 16). Menopause Help for Husbands: 6 Tips on How to Help Your Midlife Wife. Gennev. View Resource

[18] Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.) Introduction to Menopause. View Resource

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